Chapter 27: NO  TIME  TO  LOSE

Chapter Twenty-Seven


M a r c h 7 – 1 4 ,  2 0 0 1


ON MARCH 7 I FLEW FROM SOUTH AFRICA TO LONDON, where I took a day of rest before traveling on to San Francisco to begin a five-week tour of our ISKCON temples in America.

In London, I took a hotel room near the airport in order to get sufficient rest before my flight the next day. I was joined by my disciple, Çré Öhäkura Mahäçaya däsa, who kindly assisted me during the layover.

Before I left South Africa, one devotee had mistakenly dyed my only two sets of cloth a dark red. Poor Çré Öhäkura Mahäçaya spent most of our short stay in the hotel repeatedly washing the clothes in the bathtub to try to soften the color. However, when he brought the clothes to me just before I left for my flight, I saw to my horror that they had turned bright pink! Even the hotel employees couldn’t keep from smiling when they saw me.

Unfortunately the light mood didn’t last long. The phone rang just as we were leaving the hotel room. It was a devotee calling to inform me that my Godbrother, Tribuvanätha Prabhu, from London, had just been diagnosed with stomach cancer and been given only six weeks to live. The news shocked me. Tribuvanätha, who came to Kåñëa consciousness in the late 1960s, has been a brahmacäri most of his ISKCON life. He has always been one of my favorite devotees. Although our association has been limited through the years, I have always admired his bright face, blissful smile, and taste for the holy name. Like myself, he has focused on organizing big festivals throughout Europe and Africa for much of his devotional career.

Hearing of his imminent departure made me realize that if he can die, I can too. The fact is, we never expect we’re going to die. If we did, we would take full advantage of each and every minute in devotional service. I thought, “When will I actually become serious about Kåñëa consciousness and deal with the lust, anger, and greed in my heart? When will that day come when I will chant the holy name with genuine feeling? When will my compassion for all living entities manifest, and with a lowly heart will I go out to preach the divine command?” I pray that Tribuvanätha’s condition will be the catalyst that finally manifests these changes within my heart. Time is short. As Çréla Prabhupäda said to the disciples who surrounded his bed during his last days, “Don’t think this won’t happen to you!”

Friend, when will you die? Do you know? Do not even infants sometimes die unexpectedly? With clear intelligence, without attachment to the body and senses, and without stopping to think, run to Våndävana!

—Våndävana-mahimämåta, Introduction, Text 78

Çré Prahläda and Rukmiëé Priya joined me at Heathrow Airport for the flight to America. Because I had gone alone to South Africa, we had been separated for ten days. I was overjoyed to see them again. It’s not easy to travel alone. Cäëakya Pandit recommends that one travel with others:

Religious austerities should be practiced alone, study by two, and singing by three. A journey should be undertaken by four, agriculture by five, and war by many together.

—Néti Çästra, Chapter 4, Text 12

From a mundane point of view I was flying home. I was born and raised in San Francisco, but there’s nothing left there for me now. Both my parents have passed away, and my siblings are scattered all over the country. Nevertheless, as I looked out the plane window, memories of my childhood came to mind, bringing with them sentiments not worthy of my attention. I quickly caught myself and came back to reality, remembering the written words of my spiritual master—reflections on his own family members with the passing of time:

Where have my affectionate

Father and mother gone now?

And where are all my elders and other relatives,

Who were my own folk?

Who will give me news of them now?

I ask you—tell me who?

All that is left of this so-called family

Is a list of their names.

As the froth upon the sea water

Arises for a moment and then subsides,

The play of mäyä’s worldly illusion

Is exactly like that.

No one is actually a mother or father,

A family member or relative.

Everyone is just like foam on the sea water,

Remaining in view for only a few moments.

But all of us are actually relatives,

O brothers, on the platform of pure spirit soul.

These eternal relationships are not tinged

With the temporary delusions of mäyä.

The Supreme Lord is Himself

The ultimate soul of everyone.

In their eternal relationship to Him,

Everyone in the universe is equal.

—Çréla Prabhupäda’s “Våndävana Bhajana,” written about 1958

Çréla Prabhupäda writes that no one is our “mother or father,” but rather “everyone in the universe is equal.” In other words, all of us are equal as brothers and sisters because we share God as a common father. A devotee of the Lord takes every opportunity to remind all conditioned souls of this fact. Therefore, although a devotee may renounce the idea that he is part of a particular family, society, or nation, he is not at all averse to helping even his own “mother and father” in Kåñëa consciousness. In fact, simply having a devotee in one’s family benefits that family immensely. Çréla Bhaktisiddhänta Sarasvaté once said, “When a great saint, a pure devotee, appears in a family, then his ancestors and descendants for a hundred generations each are elevated. When a devotee of middle stature (madhyama-bhägavata) appears in a family, then his ancestors and descendants for fourteen generations each are elevated. When a neophyte devotee appears in a family, then his ancestors and descendants for three generations each are elevated.” (Çréla Prabhupäder Upadeçämåta)

Personally, I tried my best to help my mother in spiritual life. Unfortunately, she was an intellectual, and throughout her life never showed the slightest interest in religion. I once asked her if she believed in God and she replied, “Something may be out there.” Whenever I visited her we would debate the existence of the soul, life after death, karma, etc., and over the years I continued to cultivate that little “something” in her heart by sending her Çréla Prabhupäda’s books, which invariably ended up in a pile at the back of her garage collecting grease and dust.

A few years ago she telephoned me late one night. It was an unusual hour to call, and I was surprised to hear from her. She began the conversation by asking if I would take her to Våndävana. I was shocked! “Mother wants to go to Våndävana, to the land of Kåñëa’s birth?! What is this? How does she even know what Våndävana is?” But she insisted and wanted to know when we could go. Although I was intrigued at the prospect of taking my mother to Våndävana, because it was late (and I was tired), I told her I’d call her back early the next morning and we could discuss the matter in detail. I woke up refreshed the next day, and after my shower excitedly dialed her number. My brother answered.

I said, “Pete, can I speak to Mom?”

There was a prolonged silence. Something was wrong. Finally, he replied with his voice choked with emotion, “Mom passed away last night.”

I couldn’t believe it. Once again the reality of death was staring me in the face. “What happened? I talked to Mom only last night!”

“I know. She’s been battling cancer for six months. She didn’t want to tell you.”

Collecting myself, I said, “Cancer! Did she say anything at the end?”

“Yes, she did. She said, ‘Don’t lament for me! I’m not this body. I’m eternal spirit soul. I’ll never die. I’m going to Kåñëa!’ With those words on her lips, she passed away.”

I was stunned. My mother, the intellectual who never went to church, who never inquired about God, who debated His very existence, was “going to Kåñëa”. I couldn’t believe she had said such a thing.

“But how is it possible that Mom said those things at death?”

“When Mom learned she had cancer and was going to die, a strange transformation came over her. She became restless and unsettled. She began asking about you, wanting to know where you were and what you were doing. She had an intense desire to meet with you, to speak with you. But when I suggested calling you she’d always say, ‘No, don’t bother him now. We’ll contact him later.’

“One morning I went out to the garage to empty the garbage and I found her going through all those books you had sent her. She looked up at me and asked me to carry them into the house. That afternoon she carefully dusted them off. For the last five months she sat in her rocking chair and read those books. Sometimes she’d underline certain passages or quotes that had particular relevance for her. She also contacted your tape ministry in London and ordered all your lecture tapes. She’d listen to them on her headphones, rocking back and forth in her armchair, looking at your picture which she kept on the table nearby. She must have listened to at least three a day.

“Gradually her condition deteriorated, but she wasn’t afraid. I think there was something in those books that made her fearless. Then last night she sensed she was going to die. She told me to call you. Her last request was that you take her to a place called Våndävana.”

When I put the phone down I cried—not out of mundane sentiment or attachment but in appreciation that my spiritual master, Çréla Prabhupäda, had extended his mercy to my mother and delivered her from material existence.

I went home for the memorial service and arranged her estate. Just before I was leaving to return to Europe, my brother and sister approached me and asked what they should do with her ashes. Remembering my last conversation with her, I smiled and took the ashes with me. Several weeks later, one of my disciples placed them in the sacred waters of the Yamunä River in Våndävana. I had fulfilled my mother’s last request to me, a request I pray will also be on my lips the day I leave this mortal frame.

May the land of Çré Våndävana where Subäla and the other wonderful cowherd boys, who are all dear friends of Çré Kåñëa, play, where Lalitä and the other splendidly beautiful young gopés, who are all filled with love for Çrémati Rädhäräëé, enjoy transcendental bliss, and where Çré Çré Rädhä-Kåñëa thirst to enjoy wonderful transcendental amorous pastimes day and night, become manifest in my heart.

—Våndävana-mahimämåta, Introduction, Text 15